"So you're suggesting that I must change myself before I change my life?"
"Yes. It's like that old story my favorite professor told me when I was in law school;
One night, a father was relaxing with his newspaper after a long day at the office. His son, who wanted to play, kept on pestering him. Finally, fed up, the father ripped out a picture of the globe that was in the paper and tore it into a hundred tiny pieces.
'Here son, go ahead and try to put this back together,' he said, hoping this would keep the little boy busy long enough for him to finish reading after his paper.
To his amazement, his son returned after only one minute with the globe perfectly back together.
When the startled father asked how he achieved this feat, the son smiled gently and replied, 'Dad, on the other side of the globe there was a picture of a person. Once I got the person together, the world was okay.'"